Alright guys, let's just keep it plain and simple: the word "no," always means exactly that...no. I know there are girls out there that like to play little mind games and they think they're being flirty when they tell you "no," about something, but those girls shouldn't get any more of your attention because they're weird. So, play it safe and just walk away when someone says no. Even if it seems to be a simple situation. No.
Here's what happened to me the other day...
I was at work and decided to have a cigarette (yeah, this whole scenario is reason number one million to quit smoking. Reason number one million and one is the run-in with a raccoon the other night while smoking my before bed cigarette). I walked out the front door and was standing between my store and a popular video game store. I stand here because it's next to one of those smokers' poles, or butt depots. I was just minding my own business, having a cigarette, texting some people, when a car pulled up and parked in the front row. A guy got out and yelled, "Damn girl! You're gorgeous!"
He's not talking to me, I thought, as I inconspicuously looked to my left and right, realizing I was the only person standing out there. Shit. The guy came walking up to me, video games in hand, and this is what happened from there:
"Hey beautiful, what's your name?" he asked.
"Umm, Emma," Shit! Why did I give him my real name?!
"How old are you?"
"What do you think?"
"20?"
"Nope."
"17?"
"Ew. No. 25. How old are you?"
"Legal."
"Legal? For what?" This is where I got an attitude.
"I'm 23," he said laughing.
"I don't think you're funny."
"Aw, come on, I was only joking."
"I don't care."
"Do you have a boyfriend?"
"No."
"Can I get your number?"
"No."
"Awww, come on, I wanna take you out to dinner and make you smile."
"I just don't see that happening. Sorry."
"Come on," he said, opening his flip phone, "what's your number?"
"Sorry buddy, you're not getting it."
"Just let me have it!"
"ALRIGHT! How about you go return your games, and I'll think about it and let you know when you come back out."
"Sounds good," he said, winking and walking into the store.
I waited for the game store's door to close, I leisurely walked over to my store, and as soon as I got inside I literally ran to the back room, where I hid until my coworker told me the car I pointed out to her was gone.
You know, I've never pulled such a bitchy move before. But I've never had to refuse someone my phone number more than once, maybe twice. That wasn't fun and flirty, that was a straight up no. I can't believe some of you guys! Persistence is one thing, annoyance is another. Have a little dignity, when a girl says no, take it at face value. If she was just trying to be flirty and weird when she said, "no," you need to move on. It'll be her loss. When she realizes her flirting tactic sucked, if she's interested enough she'll find a way to get you back to conversation.
Seriously.
No means no.
And let's talk for a second about his entire approach. I wasn't really attracted to him, and even if I was, I would have reacted the same way. I just don't like such an abrasive approach. I'm not sure how many girls do.
What an annoying guy!!!
ReplyDeleteSo glad you didn't say yes!
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I KNOW! Ugh...
ReplyDeleteThe more men who learn this the better! By the way, lol at you saying "i just dont see that happening" to him saying that he wants to make you smile!
ReplyDeleteHaha I'd say poor guy, but then he kinda had that coming for him.
ReplyDeleteGuys do need to understand that when a girl say no that many times, it really means no.
I mean, i can usually tell pretty well if a girl is playing hard to get because there are subtle hints. I guess this guy is too good with his video games and not very good at reading the signs that say no.